Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family. Show all posts

Tuesday, March 28

The Story of Ballyferris. Chapter Eleven. The Road to Ballywalter

 I'm excited...we are going to see the film "Ballywalter" this afternoon in Warrington.

We were there in July...walking along the beautiful silver beach and loving the wild marine daisies that grew by the old caravan in the field at Ballyferris. Just along the road from the little town.


It was a perfect Co Down coast day. The breeze was soft...the sea was gentle..birds swooped over the water..and Leo..Rosie's dog lept in the waves with joy.


Later that day we met up with an old friend that we hadn't seen for 60 years...that was special...but that post is for another day.

I'll let you know if the film lives up to all my expectations!!

I'm leaving this story as a recap...in case you might like to know what Ballywalter meant to me..x

The caravan was moved to the edge of the field by the beach after a couple of years and so after breakfast it was merely a matter of stepping out of the door and running down the sand to the sea and the magic of rock pools and little darting creatures in the water.

But as we got older, well at least older than eight or nine… we became more adventurous and we started to wander ever further away from the relative safety of the beach. One of our favourite places to go was  the little town of Ballywalter, a small fishing village on the east coast of the Ards Peninsula some two miles south of the caravan site at Ballyferris. This was the first of the local metropolises ... or should that be metropolii? It would become a flame to us little moths. At the top of the lane to the beach we turned left on to the coast road. Being the 1950s, there was very little traffic on country roads and any that there was tended to be tractors with trailers or fastasmagorical medieval-looking contraptions for doing various jobs in the fields. How was I to know what they were for, I may have been the child of a farmer’s son, but I was also the daughter of a city loving mother.
I mentioned previously that I rarely wore shoes during my time at the caravan, and so it was that very often I walked the road barefoot. I’m not pretending that it was painless, the roads were tarmacked and stoney and it was my own silly fault when I regularly ended up with aching soles! There was of course the grass verge I could have kept to but nettles and unknown creepy crawlies deterred me from taking that choice. Most of the time we were laughing and joking so much that we didn’t notice any physical discomfort.
There were land marks on the way to keep us interested. Greystone Road was off to the right opposite the farm. So called I believe because of the enormous grey stone perched on the right hand side. This road took you to Carrowdore…you remember Carrowdore?... the little village that time seemed to have passed by. I never questioned the reason for the stone then I simply accepted it’s presence, but I suppose that it was dumped there after the ice age for the whole of County Down is known as basket of eggs country, officially drumlins.
Different farms and other sites were passed as we walked though these we dismissed as lesser establishments than our field. Half way along the road to the town on the right hand side, was an old abandoned farm house no doubt left empty when the residents either died or left for a chance of a better life elsewhere. The Irish diaspora in England,  Australia and the Americas left the island with a small population in those days and many of my friends took the Liverpool boat in search of a future myself included.  With our vivid imaginations and no doubt encouraged by one of the older members of the gang, we came to believe this old house was haunted. So to prove our lack of fear we would creep up the tangled path and peer in the grimey windows, until one of the gang jumped out and shouted “boo!” Sometimes if I passed by on my own, I would take a sidelong glance and hurry on as fast as my little legs could carry me. Well you know the old saying...there’s more to heaven and earth than any of us realise.
 Fresh air and the salty smell of sea was ever present and even now when that wonderful ozone once again hits my nostrils, I’m catapulted back in memories to the sensuousness of it all. 
One of the reasons I liked to walk along the road to Ballywalter was that some of my relatives had  caravans on a site close to the town. They had their vans pitched on Robinson’s field with the farm on the landward side of the road and the vans tight up against the edge of the coast. Aunt Cis, was my father’s sister and she and her husband John occupied one of these sites with their three sons. And Aunt Sally and her husband Cecil, dad’s nephew, had another site close by with their two daughters. Both men had built their caravans before dad made ours, and the legend was that they were so good at it that even the line on the screw heads were level throughout. Quite a boast. Sometimes Aunt Cis's boys went out rabbiting, not to catch or kill but to bring back some little wild ones to have as pets by the caravan. Then I assume that at the end of the summer they set them free…well that’s what I want to assume! I’m not saying that dad didn’t catch rabbit for food, oh yes he did, and mum was expert at turning it in to best chicken! She was a magician. And talking about chickens, none of these sites were the clean cemented establishments that so much of today's caravaners know. Chickens, ducks and various fowl wandered at will in among the caravans.
Aunt Sally had a little saying about her girls. The farmer’s son was John and like many of the farmer's sons locally, he was a flirt,  so Sally with a wry smile would ask him quietly to remember that she was always watching out for her beautiful daughters and he should be a good boy. Hmm! That seemed to me even then like a lost cause. They were such fun the country lads, but good, no they were not!

Aunt Cis

Food  played a big role in my wanting to stop here. Aunt Cis was renowned for exotic sandwiches. Always the crusts discarded...a feast for the gulls. The white bread would be “sliced pan” no doubt from the Ormeau Bakery, buttered with best Ulster butter. There might be some amazing combinations such as freshly cooked ham sliced to within an inch of it’s life and maybe on top of that some thin slices of pickled peaches. Where did she get such luxuries in those days of belt tightening? Best not to ask! Onions also played a role with thin sliced beef and even thinner slices of onion rings on delicious wheaten bread. I missed Irish bread so much when I first made my way to these English shores and really I still do..
The Ballyferris gang were always eager to be on the move... eager to get to the multifarious delights of the town of Ballywalter. So reluctantly I would have to leave the gourmet pleasures of Aunt Cis’s food and the verbal joys of Aunt Sally’s caustic remarks and join them. I didn’t ever want to be the one who missed out on the big happenings at the town.
I'll write another missive on the activities we got up to there...but I just want to mention this painter of Irish landscapes and seascapes, Kenneth Webb. As a bit of an artist myself now...I studied Fine Art degree at the college in Birkenhead... how I wish I had known that he lived in the town of Ballywalter even while I was there during the caravan days. Mum was an amateur oil painter of Irish landscape but I don't recall her ever mentioning him...that's not to say she didn't...just that I may not have payed attention to her!


Ballywalter Harbour
Artist
Kenneth Webb


Monday, February 7

Just one day in February.

 On Friday we drove up the M6 to the old house in West End Morecambe and popped the heating on to warm it up.

...then  switched on the electric blanket to air the bed...

...and off to Arnside in the wind with big skies and rainbows over the Bay.


A train goes off to Whitehaven again.
It looks like a toy train as it trundles over the bridge on it's way up the west coast of Cumbria.
We sit and stare and promise...we'll do that trip this year.
 



...my mum loved seagulls...her favourite book was " Jonathan Livingston Seagull"...
Rosie bought it for her.
...we used to watch them from the old caravan at Ballyferris...fighting the winds and soaring over the wild seas.



...we were just in time to catch the "bore" as it powered it's way up the Kent ...roaring like a tractor...


...sudden downpours...
...caused many rainbows...I love a rainbow...it tells me " All will be well"...
(Julian of Norwich...thankyou..)




...then back to the old house and fish and chips with the blessed son...who now lives on The Bay.
A big fire in the grate and rugs around the knees and we talk of this and that ...

and are thankful.

Monday, November 30

Birthdays and other things...

 Today these two tree climbers are 19 years old!

Snape Twins

Izzy and Esther.

Where did that time go?

Oh wait...it went with fun and meals together with the family...

...it went at High School and now work and university..

...it went with laughter and tears...

It was great!!



...always cake here at The Potters House..



A chocolate cake was baked and on behalf of both...Izzy blew out the candles!

Their mum and dad isolating at the moment missed the traditional blowing of the light!

...celebrating A level results this year...


...and here are some flowers from the garden....

..in the summer when things were easier all round!!



Wednesday, November 11

Remembering... November 11th

 


Today we remember two dads who were active in  WW2

Sydney Snape

Alan and Jean's dad

...who was active in the North Atlantic as a member of The Royal Navy...


and

Douglas McClelland

...dad to Ian, Rosemary and Geraldine...

...who patrolled the docks and ship building port of Belfast...


We miss these two men
and
...are thankful for their lives.



Friday, June 5

Writer's Workshop and A Poem for Thursday..."I can't write like Stephen Berg".

 ...Thursday writer's workshop is always a joy...not because of what I write ...but to hear the amazing stories and poems that emerge from each of the writers' pens over less than two hours work....
The prompt this week was the word.."Red"...ohhh...red mist...red carpet...red flowers...red blood!!!

Mine was blood and DNA....
"A Phone Call"
The phone rang and I answered it. Just a phone call, like any other phone call. A call from the sister. I say THE sister as I only had one sister. She was the little pet of the family. Seven years between us meant that I was the big sister. I was the "can you look after your sister love?" person designated to take her to whatever I was going to myself. Friend's house...shopping in town...rugby match at the sports ground down the Ravenhill....Can you imagine a seven year old standing in the crowd when it swayed left and right as the ball alternated up and down the pitch? Mum had no idea what a rugby crowd was like. So I'm yelling part time for the school team and the rest of the time for the sister to "watch out!"..."stop standing on my toes!"..."leave go of my legs!"
Anyway, back to the phone call. Well we're great friends now. Although we've gone in very different directions, we're closer than ever. And it's a bad week if we don't chat and catch up on family news, and find something to have a belly laugh about. All the years of memories good and bad, happy and sad with the three major adults in the family gone now. So we cling to our relationship and recognize the stabilizing effect it has on our everyday existance.
Everyone has things that happen to "upset the apple cart". The unexpected, round the corner things. You know..illness, separation, divorce, finance, redundancy....need I go on! So it's always good to have absolutes to keep your feet firmly on the ground of life. We find normalising situations as quickly as possible a good premise to go on. After all everything is normal when you add up your experiences and divide by the number you first thought of!
And phone calls are such a great normaliser in our modern world. Especially now that we all have our mobiles....mobile phones that is...not mobile homes! Too normal I think when I see the young gazing into screens or business people in cafes or on trains instructing and pontificating in loud important voices...bah!
The sun was shining in through the french windows as the phone rang. I pulled the curtain across to stop me squinting in the bright sunlight. Apart from that I often pulled it across just to see the cicadas in the pattern of the cloth. I bought it at a flea market in Provence many years ago. I find it good to have happy memories around..oh and also good if the phone call should get a bit boring or one-sided. 
But that's not normally the way with the sister can I say...too much to gossip about. Family goings-on to relate. We trip over ourselves wordily getting so much into the call.Outdoing each other in funny anecdotes and dissing those others whose antics make us shake our heads. It's the same in every family. There are those you are glad are members and then there are others who although not on your wavelength actually make for an interesting conversation..you know what I mean...sometimes we call it a rant...it eases the tensions of life!
"Hi!" I said. "How's things?". There was silence. "Are you still there?". "Yes". The sister sighed. "Something up?"...I anticipated a bit of a rant. Nothing. "Speak to me...."
 She spoke."It's true....we have another sister!". 

Then this afternoon I read Antony Wilson's wonderful poetry blog..."Lifesaving Poems"..blogs like this...so full of information and poets that I've yet to explore, have been a veritable godsend in the blogger world...and so I said...I can't write like Stephen Berg...and then promptly wrote ...like Geraldine Snape!!!


I can't write like Stephen Berg
But Margaret says,"I like your asides."
Those are the funny bits I put in the writing
At the Thursday workshop.
I think women are good at asides
It takes the sting out of the parts of life
We want to normalise.
Normalise...what's that all about?
I learnt that from Doreen years ago
She needed it.
And the"professionals" said
"That how you'll cope with everything."
They were dead right there.
We took it on as a mantra.
You know those words the Buddists talk about?
But we didn't think George Harrison's
Hari, Hari, suited our situation.
So we took on,"normalise",
That's all we needed to say to one another.
George put the shelves up in the off license
When he was just seventeen we heard.
That's an aside, things were getting too serious,
So I put that in.
But I like the story anyway.
The potter took them down as soon as we bought the shop.

Thursday, May 28

A Poem for Thursday..."A Time in Times"



 
 
There are times in all of our lives when we have to stop on the road we are travelling...look around at the circumstances...and review the situation.
 
It can be a change of direction is needed...and a change of priorities
 
This was our experience...it made us the people we are today.
 
A Time in Times.

We disappeared into a nether world.
Became invisible and without form.
People who had known us passed by unblinking
Those who sensed our presence were few and far between.
All that we had been had disappeared with the mists of time.
Persona non gratis is what we became.
Even Harry Potter could not have gone as completely as we did.
So new rules had to be formed.
New priorities and timings worked out.
This nether world was to us an enigma.
And so we set to learn the laws in our new country.

Tuesday, April 28

The Greening of Penketh.

The local council has set up a programme of tree planting here in Penketh...hooray!!...

We have been doing our own greening over the 34 years since we took over the land which belonged to Greenalls the brewers.

Then it was used as an unofficial tip...dumping ground for old bikes, prams, wooden windows and shattered glass....awful.

Below is the birch stand we started to plant as each member of our family was born.

Now there are eleven...and probably no more until the grandgirls...all five...add to the numbers...one day!!!

Each April I watch the greening of the birch grove and marvel at the soft green leaves as they develop.

Wednesday, October 9

A Poem for Thursday...Poison.

After a gap of at least a year ...the fly agaric fungi are back...and in more numbers than ever.
Now I'm not unaware of the danger of these....deathly!!
...but they do hold a facination for me and a reluctance to throw them in the bin!!




...these exotic plants are succoured...if innocently ...by the Birch Grove in the field...each tree representing one member of the family...
...so the thoughts are there I'm sure you will realise of the many ways that relationships prosper or fail...within the family unit. 





...so the poem to go with it ......

Poison
Poison grows and spreads
in the garden.
Under the shivering birches
it grows.
Fiery and red 
it attracts my attention.
Birds and squirrels 
Sample it's wares.
But I am afraid
To touch it
Now.
So I leave it there
To prosper/ fester.
Just as Blake left the poison tree.
A Dark Facination remains
In me.


I've popped it on to you tube...but as it's my first foray into this medium...I've not yet discovered exactly how to put it with this post....
...so you will find it on the one before!!!!

I will succeed!!!

oh nearly forgot to link up with dVerse at the pub....
too much new stuff going on in my head!!


Saturday, February 23

Old Friends...

One of the lovliest things in the world is the easiness of meeting up and talking to old friends. That's not to say that they are always age-old....but some might be and others not.
Yesterday was such a day.
An old ...yes fairly old ...friend came ...well just dropped in ...for a cuppa and a chat.
Therre is some heavy stuff going down in her life, and ohhh it's so good to talk things through with another who is not in that same boat but has a bit of a clue as to how you might feel.

Then an unexpected phone call from across the sea...old friend first met when we were sweet 16!....
It's as if you just carry on the conversations that you had maybe a year or even more ...ago.

Then the third meet....up at the young families house for a meal with Joanne, James and their brood.
James lived with us when he was 18 for a year on a gap year out before Oxford, and it was one of the best, funniest and happiest years that we had during the time that we took gap year teenagers in to our home.

But they didn't leave empty-handed....oh no...apart from the two penguins bought for some collecters....
...off went the camel with the wellington boots!!
...ready for anything....sand or snow that fellow!



That's him on the left looking into the future....the one with the hiking boots has long gone ...he was not the sort to hang around waiting for the dreamers!

Sunday, January 20

Yeast!

So....what to do on a dank, drear, Sunday afternoon in late January.....?
(apart from give birth to first child!)
(well... 42 years ago)
...any way...
....well of course...think of sun, warmth and perhaps...
...Italy!

The recipe in the newspaper was for Foccaccia......have I spelled it right? ...hope so.





Anyway, neither of us are feeling grand, a bit creaky and achey
...so how to cheer ourselves up......
....bake a bit of sunshine.

First thing get the yeast out of the store cupboard and mix it with some luke-warm water...
....hmmmm...best to check the BB date...
.oooops
....october 1998!!


  
Maybe start again!
(do you like that bowl?...the potter made it for me... oh...probably more than 30 years ago...he would throw it out,

"that old thing"

but I won't let him. )

righty ho...and we are off and running...or at least off and baking...
...we think...( the unroyal we of the potter and me)...that the gorgeous Paul Hollywood  would be proud of us as we get our hands deep into the bowls and mix....

"Feel the mixture Mary!"



I'd forgotten how long the waiting is in between each of the pummellings and risings.....you need to have something else to be busy with on a bread baking day ...we decided!




but to our surprise ...the dough rose...


 
 
...more kneading needed....see what I did there?!



...into the tins and sprinkle on the rosemary and sea salt...
...I put a few olives on the top as well.

Oh and don't forget the dimples potter!





...the bread baked ...
...and the family ate and pronounced...

..."This is good"!

There you go.

...and did you know that the name rosemary is really ros maris.......dew of the sea...
...there you are lovely sister!

Sunday, August 5

a Poem for Mag 129





A Dinner Table at night 1884 John Singer Sargent.

Many thanks to Willow at Mag 129  for this prompt.
I had just read an article in the Saturday Guardian about when dinner actually occured.
It seems to depend on whether you are a northerner or a southerner.
Working, middle or upper class here in England
We had dinner at midday in Belfast and tea, not as in afternoon tea, for we often also had that!...but as in at 6.00  early evening.
That was sometimes the main meal of the day and sometimes just a light meal.
 

The Dinner Party

I‘m never sure what I should wear.
The velvet with my upcombed hair,
The silver lame evening gown.
To dress it up or dress it down.
For what is dinner now I ask
Is dinner lunch, or is that passed?
Is dinner five in’t afternoon
When family’s home from work and schooling?
Or should one wait ‘til half past nine
To eat one’s fill, to sit and dine.

Confusion is the very word
I’ve often seen it writ or heard..
That one can turn up ill- prepared
For beans on toast or pasta whirls.
When all along you thought it would
Be consommé and gourmet food.

Blest, best,  of all, the family,
Who wear their clothes with easy ways.
Or friends who laugh at all my jokes.
Say “scrumptious” to the cheese on toast,
Ask,”how’s the kids?” and “are you well?”
And ,”isn’t this year’s summer - hell?”
And when they’ve gone their laughing way
To home and hearth, to work or play,
To stack the dishes in the sink.
Raise glass and “toast” and have a drink.

I’ll pack away the velvet dress
The lame  with pretentiousness.
The consume`, the lobster bisque,
The sinking soufflé, stinking fish.
The game terrine with gamey chips
Their taste that lingers on your lips.
That conversation so polite
With talk, to quench your  appetite.

So, feed me at a table round.
With children’s chatter, family sounds.
With heated subjects bandied round
Where food and drink and love abounds
And there I’ll dine, I’ll lunch, I’ll sup,
And drink my overflowing cup.


  


Friday, March 26

Irrelevancies

I saw this quote from the Times at the weekend.  Tutor to Paloma Faith [singer], " The medium in which you express yourself is irrelevant. What is important is what you are trying to say." 


When I was at college working towards my B.A. in Fine Art, my struggle was to narrow down the ideas coming from my butterfly mind.
Whether to paint or collage, to use ceramics, installation art or performance.





Then as now the theme running through it all was, the human race on the edge. A place that I knew so well growing up, edge where sea meets land. A very edgy place yet also comforting in the eternal movement of time and tide. I have always been a gatherer of stuff thrown up by the waves. These are often bits thrown overboard, abandoned then changed by the water and salt and continual movement of wind and weather.





These pieces of work are the result of my years of looking and making. they are often a statement of relationships and family trauma and joy.                                                                  
                                 

              
       Sometimes they are just themselves!  
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
Together they make a statement about life and family and all those ordinary things that are really 
extra-ordinary!